CONTROL FREAK

By Francesca Craggs on Mar 10, 09 05:45 PM

ON my big day I'm going to give myself a good old pat on the back.
I may even stand up and raise a toast. To myself.

Not because I've bagged myself an (almost) perfect husband. But for the fact I've single handedly planned one of the most important events of my life so far.
Sorry, I say single handedly. My H2B did make one phone call. Or maybe it was two.
And although my mum has been at my side every step of the way, her lack of computer skills have meant the wedding buck stops with me.
By no means am I complaining. For as a control freak, I prefer to go it alone.
Too many cooks spoil the broth and too many people messing with my theme, spoils the wedding.
Over the past eight months, my H2B's wedding planning participation has been minimal. At best, he has feigned interest and even developed the catchphrase:
"You're better at it than me. You have great taste and I totally trust your decision."
In other words: "You do it all because I really can't be bothered."
He has been quick off the mark with one wedding arrangement. The Stag weekend that is. In fact, I've never seen him so organised.
Before we'd even booked our own honeymoon, he was typing credit card details into a budget airline's website for his forthcoming jaunt to Cork.
Boys will be boys.
Next plan. My hen night. Any 'tasteful' ideas that don't include L-signs and other unmentionables?

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For your hen night make sure you have a stripper and invite everyone who is close to you. You can also take it to Paris, that place rocks!

April 28, 2009 10:42 AM

bentonbag said:

Oh dear you really are letting him get into bad habits early.
I have one that can't drive, operate a washing machine, replace the paper in a fax machine or the ink cartridge in a printer (to be fair he has one that can't cook). He's neither stupid nor lazy, but feigned uselessness works for him.
You're going to have to really start training yours into not being useless as soon as you get back from the honeymoon. Otherwise your tendency to control freakery will mean you end up doing everything because "you're so much better at it than I am" and you want it done your way. Then, in far shorter a time than you'd think, you'll start becoming resentful at doing everything - and that is a slippery path.
Think of him as a small child or dog. Show him what to do and how to do it as simply and plainly as possible. Praise him effusively when he gets it anywhere close to right. But don't be afraid to let your tone of voice tell him when you know he's got it wrong deliberately.
But as with dogs and children, training should start as soon as possible.

April 28, 2009 9:43 PM

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